One of the most precious bits of wisdom I’ve ever received is this: YOU choose your mood. It is no one’s responsibility to make you feel the way you “should”, nor can we attribute fault to anyone else. Mood is a choice.
Before I go on, I know some of you are thinking, “What about depression?”. If you’ve read The Happiness Hypothesis, by Jonathan Haidt, you might remember him explaining that psychotherapy such as cognitive behavioral therapy, created by Aaron Beck in the 1960s, is used to help patients catch negative thoughts and find more accurate ways of thinking. If this is done well, the therapy works just as effectively as an SSRI such as Prozac, Zoloft, etc. and has longer lasting effects. I think we can somehow connect the ancient proverb “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.” I personally would rather be empowered with strategies than given medication. I realize that there are extreme cases and am in no way trying to diminish that fact. However, this is a topic that deserves a lengthier discussion and is not the subject of this post.
As a side note, I would not promote the interpretation of the aforementioned proverb by Ron Swanson of Parks and Recreation: “Give a man a fish and feed him for a day. Don’t teach a man to fish…and feed yourself. He’s a grown man. And fishing’s not that hard.”
Moving on…
I’ve personally learned that music plays a huge part in how I feel on a daily basis. When I was younger, I’m almost positive I went through the majority of my childhood and high school years never listening to song that was sad or had a slow tempo. I refused. I wasn’t conscious of it at the time, but the things that we watch and listen to are food for the soul. Remember the phrase, “You are what you eat?” I believe your soul becomes what your soul “eats”. Meaning, the input that you process daily (the things you read, watch, listen to, surround yourself with) will help shape who you are and how you think. Some of what’s out there is good for the soul; some is trash.
Every morning I set my mood for the day with energizing music, I listen to podcasts on the way to work, and I immediately put an album on that’s mellow when I arrive home for the night. I try to be very intentional in deciding what things I’m willing to listen to and watch.
If you’d like to try this out , I’d suggest staying away from certain songs….
For me, these are the Top 10 songs that are least likely to boost my mood:
10. Crocodile Rock by Elton John. Oh my Lord. When I first started playing piano, my parents hadn’t yet invested in the spinet that they now own. As we know, children often change their minds, so I began this new endeavor with a cost-effective CASIO keyboard. This keyboard had many preset songs that you could listen to. My least favorite was Crocodile Rock. It’s so aggressively annoying, especially after increasing the tempo a few notches. I still hate it.
9. Anything Pearl Jam.
8. Or Nickelback. I don’t even have to explain these two. You already agree. I know you do.
7. Footloose by Kenny Loggins. I’m sorry two-steppers, I had to add it. Even Kevin Bacon is sick of this song. Go watch the interviews.
6. We Fly High by Jim Jones. I feel like I’m listening to a rap album slowed down and played backwards. Equally annoying from the rap category: White Tee by Dem Franchize Boyz and This is Why I’m Hot by MiMS. (Yes, I’m aware that this was my ringtone back when I owned a Motorola RAZR. Those were some trying times.)
5. Rock Lobster – The B-52’s. Not a fan of crocodiles rocking; not a fan of lobsters rocking. Stick with Love Shack if you ever look them up or if you’re allergic to shellfish.
4. Zombie by The Cranberries. The Cranberries are hit or miss. If you like yodeling and rock music, you’ll most likely find them a hit.
3. Escape (The Piña Colada Song) There is a specific demographic that loves this song. These humans are usually over the age of 60 and enjoy wearing Hawaiian shirts.
2. Mmmm Mmmm Mmmm Mmmm by Crash Test Dummies. What audience was this meant to appeal to? If I were a mortician, this would be my jam. Have you heard this song? Then you know what I’m talking about.
1. Anything Phil Collins. Phil Collins’ songs from Tarzan, Phil Collins in Genesis (post Peter Gabriel), pretty much everything he’s ever produced. I’m not sure where this aversion came from but it’s very real. My friends have often seen my eye start to twitch when a P.C. ballad comes on the radio.
For the sake of keeping this blog positive, here are some fast-paced classics that might up your mood. They’re perfect for singing to strangers next to you on the road, shower serenades, or anywhere else you accidentally find to be acoustically perfect.
Feel free to turn these up to 11:
- Blitzkreig Bop – Ramones
- Bohemian Rhapsody – Queen
- Fortunate Son – Creedence Clearwater Revival
- Rock and Roll – Led Zeppelin
- I Want You Back – The Jackson 5
- You Can’t Hurry Love – The Supremes
- Let’s Go Crazy – Prince
- Fuel – Metallica
- September – Earth, Wind, & Fire
- Great Balls of Fire – Jerry Lee Lewis
- La Bamba – Richie Valens
- All Day and All of the Night – The Kinks
- Semi-Charmed Life – Third Eye Blind
- Do You Love Me – The Contours
- Take On Me – A-ha
- I Got You (I Feel Good) – James Brown
- Suavemente – Elvis Crespo
- Pump It – The Black Eyed Peas (Fergalicious?)
- Gettin’ Jiggy Wit It – Will Smith
- Groove Is In The Heart – Deee-Lite
- Mambo No. 5 – Lou Bega ->If you’re bummed that your name isn’t in this song, it’d probably be better for your mood to avoid it.
If you listen to this list and are still feeling down afterward, consult a medical professional immediately.
- Nobody aka Your Juke Box Hero
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